A parable from priest and therapist Anthony de Mello on the stories we tell ourselves:
“A man found an eagle’s egg and put it in a nest of a barnyard hen. The eaglet hatched with the brood of chickens and grew up with them.
All his life the eagle did what the barnyard chicks did, thinking he was a barnyard chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and cackled. And he would thrash his wings and fly a few feet into the air.
Years passed and the eagle grew very old. One day he saw a magnificent bird above him in the cloudless sky. It glided in graceful majesty among the powerful wind currents, with scarcely a beat of its strong golden wings.
The old eagle looked up in awe. “Who’s that?” he asked.
“That’s the eagle, the king of the birds,” said his neighbor. “He belongs to the sky. We belong to the earth—we’re chickens.”
So the eagle lived and died a chicken, for that’s what he thought he was.”
Source: Song of the Bird
The story above need to be read carefully and Please… Take time to digest the story. I believe this kind of story may be vary in it’s character but the main message stay the same: you are who you think you are.
It’s true but it’s also not true. An eagle in a chicken farm will still be an eagle. It has different appearance, it has evolved million of years to be an eagle, so I am strongly against the idea that an eagle will suddenly become a chicken just because it is amongst chicken everyday.
There are two most important days in a person life; one, when she was born, and second is when she found out why.A quote from Mark Twain with a little twist.
It’s true we oftentimes become what our environment/neighborhood/ family ask us to be. But it’s also true that we are all have to find our “why” in this colorful life, and oftentimes, we find our “why” in a totally different way with those people in our environment.
It’s not true that we could become whoever we want just by thinking or keep talking about it. Repeated lie may sounds like the truth but it’s still a lie though. And it’s really not recommended to lie to your self. If you want to be an eagle you have to do the hardwork to be an eagle. If you want to reach the star then expect the continuous hurts from the falling.