So… Here I am, the same place, but different person. And lately I can confidently say I am in my happy place. Seriously? You’ve had strings of misfortune events lately and you said you’re in your happy place? Yes. Yes I am.

First, misfortune events? Nah… I don’t give labels anymore to any event or situation. They are events or situations, that’s all. Giving them any label made my mind full of “creative stories” which is bad for my mood 😅. And even when I don’t like some situations, I keep telling myself, I can’t possibly know the whole story, so I just let things be.

Second, I often remember not taking everyone’s problems to be my own. Yes, I am a fixer by default and I am so used to being that “reliable” partner, colleague, daughter, mother , even reliable stranger! I will give you the lane on that highway alright.  And being so helpful all the time is the best way to drain myself. I run with empty gas most of the time, I choose to be a martyr, for what? I have no idea. So, not too long ago, I stopped. I started to answer with ‘no’. I create a defined mental line on a huge project, where I can help is located within that line, and the rest is where I should let others do their responsibilities.

These two widely change my world view. I live in a completely different world. That’s why I said earlier, same place, but with a different self, and this is my happy place.

Karin Sabrina