I learned an ancient concept about relationships today. I said ancient because it seems like a very natural way to engage in relationships. It is said that a relationship, in particular with one’s spouse is a sadhana; a spiritual practice.

We are not having a relationship so we can be happily ever after ( I wonder why we even believe this!) but we are having a relationship so we can grow, and even awaken.

why? Because relationships trigger us. They reveal our shadows, our wounds, our unmet needs, sometimes our traumas. Our Relationships are the mirror of our inner state.  That’s why we often meet with conflict and pain in relationships.

So when we see relationships as our sadhana, it means we don’t escape from the conflict. Each argument and misunderstanding becomes a moment to reflect and a test for ego and compassion , each silence is a chance to listen deeper.

• Love the imperfection.
• Love the chaos and the clarity.
• Love even the uncomfortable truths.

This doesn’t mean allowing abuse or losing your boundaries.
It means: respond with light. With presence. With inner spaciousness.
Let your awareness and compassion be the flame that shows the love that has no opposite.

It’s a strange concept but I can feel the deep wisdom and truth in it.

Karin Sabrina