mental health
Boundaries
I am not responsible for someone else’s chaos.I am not a fixer, a shield, or a scapegoat.I offer help when it’s welcomed — and step back when it’s not.I can be kind without abandoning myself.I do not owe my energy to dysfunction.I do not make myself smaller for someone else’s control.I am allowed to say … Continue reading Boundaries
Accumulation
I don't want to accumulate things anymore.Clothes? My wardrobe is proof enough—full beyond reason.Shoes? Three pairs for running, three for casual days, two for formality.Bags? More than I need. Enough is enough.This year, I am shedding.A quiet moratorium on shopping feels right.It aligns with the word I’ve chosen to guide me: peace. I feel lighter … Continue reading Accumulation
Dear self,
You will breathe life into whatever you focus on Dear self, I know the mood’s been low— add the bad weather to the mix, the extreme heat, You keep counting bad apples,as if the rot outweighs the orchard.Lately, you forget the quiet good. You forget: your legs still carry you at dawn, running 45 minutes … Continue reading Dear self,
The Tao of Self-Confidence
I spent this weekend reading this book and it's a weekend well spent! Ms.Chan shares her rough journey to forge a path for her own life. A different path from what her family, her relatives, and her culture expect from her. Her story is pretty much relatable to me. In many Asian cultures, a woman … Continue reading The Tao of Self-Confidence
Revolt
Once, when I was a kid, I wondered what happened after we turned off the TV. Where did the small people go? What did they do until morning, when they had to perform again? I was a kid—I said it. But now, the question is different: What do we do when the performances never stop? … Continue reading Revolt
A monologue
(Lights up. A lone figure, mid-thirties maybe, sits at a table, phone in hand. She sighs, puts the phone down, and starts talking—not to anyone in particular. Maybe to herself. Maybe to us.) You know, today... I write just to stop myself from scrolling.Insta-land. Meta-land. Scroll-ville. Whatever we’re calling it now.I’m trying to escape it, … Continue reading A monologue
Honesty
How Honest Am I With Myself? Interesting question—my way of saying, I don’t really know how to answer this one. Okay… let’s start with an easy one. Was I honest with myself today? No. Not really. I wasn’t honest when I nodded along, pretending to agree while a colleague gossiped about others in the office. … Continue reading Honesty
Trigger
Which behavioural habits in others do you have the least patience for? This is a tricky question actually, because most things that annoy us do so because they mirror something in ourselves that we are not happy with subconsciously, or they set off triggers for issues stuffed down, laying dormant and unhealed. I will still … Continue reading Trigger
Hope
Some days feel like a game rigged against you. The universe, with its twisted sense of humor, throws challenge after challenge as if daring you to say, "Seriously? What now?" Today is one of those days for me. My energy is low, my patience thinner than my morning green tea, and every little and big … Continue reading Hope