I spend so much energy polishing my live for the eyes of others. The heaviest part of filing a divorce paper isn’t the court process—it’s the whisper in my head: *what will people say about me?* As if people weren’t already wrestling with their own private storms.It’s not only about divorce. It’s in the little … Continue reading Authentic
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Conversation
I have the conversation moment today! You see.. I'm the chatty one in this household, and my husband is taking the part of listening, seriously. So I like to have a good conversation with my husband ... But he doesn't always deliver. No.. it's an understatement, he rarely delivers! And this evening, out of the … Continue reading Conversation
Sadhana.2
This morning I was angry with my husband. Not just annoyed—angry. He was supposed to do something, he didn’t, and when I texted him about it, he replied with a laughing emoticon. That was it. The spark. I exploded inside.But then life went on. I carried the anger with me, heavy in my chest, yet … Continue reading Sadhana.2
Sadhana
I learned an ancient concept about relationships today. I said ancient because it seems like a very natural way to engage in relationships. It is said that a relationship, in particular with one's spouse is a sadhana; a spiritual practice. We are not having a relationship so we can be happily ever after ( I … Continue reading Sadhana
Color in Flux
A spouse is like a prism—changing shape and color depending on how the light falls,how we look at them,how we feel in the moment we’re looking. I forget where I read that,but it has stayed with me. Because it’s true.I’m never quite the same person in the morning as I am at night.And neither is … Continue reading Color in Flux
Tender
It's a tender love May both of us stay silly, life is too short to be so serious. Cheers, stay in Love, Karin Sabrina
Not fairy tales
The fairy tales always end with: "and they live happily ever after", and after that 6 words, the reader has no way to access further information about how the marriage between Cinderella and prince charming actually is. Who's cooking for breakfast? Do they take turns in doing the laundry? How do they cope with anger … Continue reading Not fairy tales
Sunday
Today is Sunday, and I woke up at 5.30 a.m.! That’s the first success. I and my husband planned to have a long run this morning, but the sweet beautiful rain canceled our plan, and the water pump decided it was time for a rebellion! It refused to work, and clearly, it is not an … Continue reading Sunday
Fight
Yes, let's have a fight then. I often wonder about the depth of our relationship, I trust you with all my heart, and I love you with all of my being, and surely I wish you understand that. Yes, let's have a fight then. I am not worried you will fall out of love with … Continue reading Fight
Anger
Okay, Let sit now...but first, be patient with me, I am not used to talking to you directly, usually whenever you have arrived, I just lash it out to someone else or I sit quietly and think for happier events, in short, it's my default mechanism to avoid you. So, today you decided to come … Continue reading Anger